I'm British, 37, and in london the weekend of the 31st, and I was hoping to try the club out.

It's been many years since my last spanking, but looking to try getting back into it!

Ideally, I'd be looking for otk with the hand. I'm not looking for a thrashing as I'm not sure where my pain threshold is after so long,but would like to be pushed a little bit.

I had a few questions if ok
How private are the private areas, as I'd be keen to start at least with as much privacy as possible (nerves)
Is it not allowed/frowned upon to wear female lingerie while at the club?
Are sexual encounters encouraged and if so can we participate in those without any spanking involved?

Sorry for the essay, and thanks in advance. Also, if there's any interested parties, please let me know!