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When will the pain go away

I just don't know what to do for my mom and my grandmother. i love them both and hate to see them sad. But i do understand that they both lost someone they loved as did i. My grandmothers daughter, my moms sister, and My aunt. she left us so suddenly and i think thats what hurts to most. also that she left 2 wonderful children as well. I just don't know how i am supposed to feel now. i am a little confused. and i miss her so much.

A poem for Pamela Davis.

Saying Good Bye

By Nicole

Friends and Family gather
In a room to say goodbye
Trying not to let it show
All trying not to cry

Because to days the day we say good bye
To someone we hold dear
A Daughter Sister Mother and Friend
To everyone that here

The love that we’ve shared with her
Will play the major part
It’s the lives she toughed that’s meant the most
And keeps her in our hearts

Physically she may be gone
But here she’ll always stay
Helping out and guiding us
Throughout each and every day.

Name of loved one and dates: Pamela Jean Davis March 14, 1970 to July 8, 2008

Re: When will the pain go away

Hello,

You dont know me but I would like to tell you that it is always hard to deal with the death of a loved one and it is always worse to see the after math of it all. The best thing you can do at the moment is to try to help your family out with whatever maybe needed around the house but most importantly take care of yourself. This is someone you loved as well and never forget that you are the most important one to yourself, you are the only one who can stand up to yourself in order to help.

I know you are feeling loss and grief, it is part of how this world is run unfortunatly. :( As for your Cousins, I am assuming, do what you think is right. There is really nothing you can say or do to make this pain subside, its the most horrible pain to feel. To grow up without a mother and/or father is hard and watching all the other children who have them is even harder.

If there is one thing you can do for your family is like this site show that we (you) are not alone in this pain. Others feel it to, tho we all are completely different. It still helps to know your not the only one.

As for the pain, it will never go away but it will fade, whenever you let it and go into peace of what has happend.

Funny that I am trying to help you when I cant even help myself. I have been going to cousiling for my problems and i think that anyone who goes through this kind of pain should think about going to talk to someone, who will listen.

My past is simple, yet it destroyed my family(s). My problem is that i mimize things I let my feelings of pain go for years after my mothers Murder before I realized that I had gotten myself into what I call Ut-Oh things like drups and alchol. Please dont fall into this trap, it is much harder to get out than it is to get back in.

We all have our pasts, but its time to look ahead into the future and see the light that glows. And, no madam I am not religous its just a sang that I remember hearing growing up with my grandparents. Take one step at a time and watch your step and you wont slip and fall is one that i came up with and it seems to help, at least for me it does.

I hope that somehow in this message you get some help or information out of it.

PS- Hiding your feelings only hurt you worse than showing them.

Name of loved one and dates: Cynthia (No respectable last name:( I'm sorry)

Re: When will the pain go away

I KNOW WHAT ITIS LIKE TO LOSE SOME ONE CLOSE. MY AUNT DIED MARCH 4, 2000 SHE WAS 38 AND DIED FROM CANCER. SHE LEFT BEHIND THREE YOUNG TEEN AGED GIRLS AND A HUSBAND. BUT SINCE HER PASSING WE STILL HAVE ALL HER MEMORIES. SHE IS ATPEACE ANDI;M NOW A CHRISTIAN. I BELIEVE GOD HAD HIS PLAN FOR HER AND HE SHOWED HIS GRACE THROUGH HER DEATH. MY AUNT SALLY GOT 11 MONTHS TO SPEND WITH US BEFOR GOD CALLED HER HOME AND I BELIEVE HE GAVE HER THAT TIME TO BECOME STRONG IN HIM AND TO KNOW HER FAMILY COULD DEAL WITH IT. I DON;T MEAN IT IN A BAD WAY AS I KNOW WE ARE NEVER READY TO LOSE ANY ONE WE LOVE AND KNOW BUT THERE ARE THOSE WHO NEVER GET THE CHANCE TO WHAT LOVE IS. GOD GAVE US 38 YRS TO LOVE HER AND I KNOW SHE IS REJOICING AT HIS HEAVENLY THRONE.

Name of loved one and dates: SALLY JUNE 6