Sorry, I have been out for a couple of days now, the thing is that my aunt is so smart that she decided to drink and then go and drive her car, she got into a car accident and we were in the hospital for the last couple of days, please dont drink and drive, I dont know how many people and how many times she had been told this by, but something like this had to happen for her to finally understand, she's fine, not a lot of damage was done, but the doctors wanted to keep her under observation for a bit, just to make sure she was alrite, again, if your drinking please have somebody else drive for you, if even when people is not drinking they get on car crashes, imagine after they do, my aunt is fine, but I have seen situations where the person is not so lucky.

Meli,

Thanks for speaking up. Many on the forum know that one of my closest friends who was like a sister to me was killed by a drunken driver five days before last Christmas. She was only 45, and had two adult children and her 11yo daughter who was in the car with her. Fortunately, her daughter survived, although she was severely injured. She now lives with her dad and stepmom, and has finally been able to return to school.

Tammy died immediately from the impact of the collision. The 21yo male driver who hit her vehicle survived and is charged with vehicular homicide. Tammy's family hopes a plea agreement can be reached, as they don't wish the now 12yo sister (her birthday was last month...the first without her mother) to have to go to court to testify, as she was in the accident and the last to see her mother. We are thinking the defense will not want a 12yo girl on the stand in front of a jury...it would not be in the young man's favor. So many lives changed in a moment...so unnecessary. I still tear up when I hear certain songs and I still want to call and ask her what she thinks of something I've read...she would have loved the Argeneau books, but I didn't get the chance to share them with her.

wren

I'm truly sorry to hear that wren, I imagine how bad you felt when that happened, as humans we are never ready to see somebody we love die, and well, I had to say something because I too lost somebody in a car crash and he didnt drink but the person in the other car did, he was my boyfriend and he was only 18, I was 15 at the time, they both die almost instantly, or so I was told, after that I promised never to drink or let somebody I love drive after they had drunk something, I dont care if they only drank a beer, I will drive them to another state if thats where they need to go but I refuse to let somebody I love die because of something so stupid, and its true, even if they dont die, somebody else's boyfriend could die and I know from personal experience that that is not cool at all, he was so young and he was an only son, so his parents were deppressed, you have kids so you must know. Again I'm truly sorry about your friend, I'm sure she misses you too, and I also think it will be better if her daughter doesnt go to court, it must be hard enough for her the fact that she lost her mother and even worse that she actually SAW how her mother died.

Thank you Meli,

That is exactly how we all feel. It seems the young man in the other car who was drinking and/or drugged had some problems with that...when he was stopped for reckless weaving on the road by a policeman, he took off at a high rate of speed and hit my friends car from the rear pushing it into a ditch with a small creek running through it. It is also sad, because it affects his family too. It is highly likely that their 21yo son is going to prison. The coroner ruled that Tammy died on impact, so all I can hope was that she did not suffer as she was taken so quickly.

Her daughter's father and stepmom are seeing that she gets grief counseling...it changed her life in an instant because her parents divorced when she was a baby, and although she saw her dad each month and in the summer, she had never lived with him full time. She also had to move two states away...and was home tutored by the schools until her broken feet and all the bruises and abrasions healed. We were grateful she did not have to have surgery. She is now back in school, and making friends, and they are doing all they can for her to adjust. Her stepmom is very sweet, and has grown children of her own so I think she will help both her husband and his daughter adjust to the changes that have come about. The saddest thing for him was having to break the news to his young daughter about her mother...although I think deep down she knew, her older sister had instructed the doctors and nurses not to say anything until their older brother and father arrived.

You keep that great attitude, and share your story when others won't listen to reason.

wren